People who are taking their time to understand if marriage is suitable for them, believe that it is about their happiness and the fit. Same is the case with a lot of those couples who are going through an irreparable rough patch.
But is it really about either's happiness alone? IMHO, no, it's not. It's mostly about their character.
Who I am as a person. Who I am as a spouse!
Any relationship is hard work. You reap what you sow. It's a huge commitment. But it was never really about the selfish desire to have everything you want and be in a constant state of ecstasy. It was about the slow transition from "wanting to have things to enjoy" to "enjoying and wanting what you already have". It's about contentment.
Only from contentment can you be the spouse you were meant to be. It doesn't "take two" to make you who you want to be. It takes just you. Imagine that your spouse became sick for a week. Does it take two? Or do you still love and carry on the same way you would do?
So the fundamental question is, who you want to be? A dependable, loving and caring person or a flight risk at the first sight of turbulence (sounds ironic, isnt it?)? If you have the confidence in you about who you want to be, then it answers for itself whether it is right for you, and if yes, it will be light work, as well!
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